Dating a widowed man with kids
He’s probably worried that they’ll think he’s moving on too fast or, perhaps, won’t be open to the idea of seeing him with someone else.
He might also be concerned that this new relationship will cause friction with other family and friends who are still mourning.
Over the last few years I've received hundreds of emails from women dating widowers.
From them I’ve noticed some patterns of behavior that indicate the widower isn’t ready for a serious relationship and just using the woman to temporarily fill the void created by the death of his late wife.
These worries and concerns are natural, but they’re no excuse.
If a widower really has serious feelings for you, he won’t let the thoughts or opinions of others stop him from letting the world know about you.
I've tried to be supportive to them, respecting their loss, knowing that I will never take the place of their mother (nor would I want to) but I would like to be able to get to know them better and be their friend. After 3 yrs of being with their father I feel like a relationship with his kids is like beating my head against the wall!
However, keep your eyes open to potential problems before giving too much of your heart to him.
"At first I was angry and felt it was disrespectful of his dead wife.
Then I thought about it and realized that the last three years of his life must have been a horror and of course he was looking for the comfort of a new relationship".
He has told me that he’s really struggling with this because he made a promise to them that if they didn’t think it was right, then he wouldn’t do it.
But, he also tells me that he loves me and my kids very much and that his kids love us, too, but don’t want to be with us on a permanent basis.